I have some tips for working at home with kids. Believe me, I should know. I have been doing this for years. I am a land developer turned online entrepreneur. All of which I did from my front room office for years. Check out the tips for making life easier working at home with those cuties.
Video Transcript-Tips for Working at Home with Kids
Hi, everyone. Today I’m actually filming this lesson from outside of my daughter’s little dance class. I told you, if I can do this, anyone can do it. I’m going to try and keep from wiggling my phone too much. Let’s get started. Oh, wait, I got to explain the hat. I got this from an online, it was a conference of online business entrepreneurs. And I’m actually going to tell you what I use it for. But I threw it on to come here so that I would have it when I tell you what I use it for and wore it into the studio, and that kind of made me feel cool. I was wondering if people wondered, like, what does she do for a living? Pretty cool, right? No, not so much. Anyway. Let me move this down so that I’m not so shaky, and wiggly.
This lesson is going to be about organizing your time with your cute little kids so that you have more time to spend on your business. And that there’s not a bunch of overlap while the kids are hanging on you and crying on you and they want lunch while you’re still have half of something to type or record. And so, I try to make this super simple. First of all, first, a disclosure. I’m only giving you opinions of what worked for my family, make sure you never leave a child unattended, blah, blah, blah, always be there for your children, right? Okay, perfect. Good moms don’t leave their kids and go work on their blog out in the car while their kids are inside and could choke on something. I have to go through this, I’m sure many of you already know this. But the very first and most important thing when you’re trying to organize your time so that you can have a little more time to work on your business is preparation.
Tools of the Trade
The first thing I like to do is or I like to suggest to women is get a box of toys, playdough, Legos, whatever your kids love and do special ones that they only get to pull out when you’re working on your website on your computer. Because this makes them excited for you to go do it. And they actually will leave you alone longer so that they can have more time with these special toys that they only get to play with then. This is my Creator hat. Children need boundaries, they need to know when it’s okay to come to mommy, and when it’s not. And I’m going to talk about that a little bit more in a minute. But what I do, I have a little bell, I brought it with, that my super loud, that I put my hat on and while my hat is on, my kids can’t bother me. Well, they can’t come to me unless it’s an emergency or something. And I say, hey, I’m going into a block for one hour and as long as I have this hat on, you need to solve your own problems. Okay, remember, and they all know that ringing the bell puts me into a block and they go do their thing. And when I’m done, I ring the bell again, and I come out of a block. And so, we call it a block. But before I do that, I do feed and water them, otherwise, they’re going to get hungry or thirsty while I’m working on the computer. And before I do that, I feed and water myself. You don’t want to, you know, doing my checklists, doing the laundry cleaning up because the baby sleeps at two o’clock. And they want all this done by two so that I can go into a block at two and let the older kids play in their box. And then you do that and you get there and you’re like, I didn’t eat lunch, I didn’t drink. Take care of yourself hydrate, give yourself a little snack, get all those chores done, and give yourself just 20 minutes of white space to just sit around and play with your kids. Before you go into a block for an hour. It just refreshes you and makes you more creative and more open to coming up with cool ideas. Feed them water them, feed and water yourself. Also, before you do this, and you can do this the night before, you can do it while you’re folding laundry, think up exactly what is the most important thing to do on your business. And we’re gonna go into some of these steps. But first, let’s get these kids under control, right?
Making Your Time Count
The most important thing that you want to spend during this precious one hour of silence that you’re going to have to work on your business. Plan ahead what you’re going to work on, feed them, water them, feed and water yourself, and be fresh and ready to start as soon as you have them ring that bell and you put your hat on. Now, one thing I do want to say is that prefrontal cortex of your brain does not develop until later in life and that’s the part of your brain that makes you be a self-starter. One thing you want to do is help your child get started in whatever it is. Whether it’s playing with playdough or playing blocks, help them get them out, help get them set up before you say, okay, I’m going into a block. Now you can come ring the bell. Because they aren’t great at self-starters, if you just say, Okay, I went into a block, go grab your things now and get started, they’re gonna be like, I don’t know where they are, they’re too high, I can’t get the box, I can’t get the lid off. You want to help them get started and get that little toy thing going before you ever ring the bell. Now, the other thing I mentioned is, kids need boundaries.
This is so important. I had a lot of guilt when I was first working on my website, if they came and I had to say, oh, just a minute, I need 20 more minutes on this, I’m in the middle of something, and they’re like, I’m hungry, but I’m thirsty. And I’d like have all this guilt, like you bad mom, get over there and feed them, oh, I really got to do this before I lose my train of thought though. Or if they pinch their finger while I’m working on my business and like what kind of mother are you. Let go of this guilt. It is better for your children, it helps them grow up to be independent, it teaches them to self soothe, and they actually can become more creative by solving some of their own problems. They’ve proven if you are bored, the more creative side of your brain actually kicks on. And they can exercise that creative part of their brain that eventually becomes the entrepreneurial part of their brain, creative part of their brain in the future. You do want to nurture them by giving them some boundaries, saying mommy’s not here for you right now.
Now, of course, this does not work with younger kids. Obviously, if you have a breastfeeding infant, get them on a schedule, hopefully, you can get them on a schedule so that they can be asleep for an hour. Get them on a good sleep, eat schedule, and plan your time around that. Or if you have like a crawler that you have to have your eyes on the whole time because they might pick something up and put them in their mouth. I’ve been there. I worked in the kitchen because I could see down into the family room and into the front room. And I put a gate across the stairs so I could have eyes on them at all times. Or I would do it during their nap time. I know that this doesn’t always work, but I would try and schedule their nap time, at the same time that I gave the older kids the special box of toys to do so that we can get everyone under control all at once and I can have like a quiet hour to be creative and spend on my passion. I recommend you do that. And one more thing, if you have the kind of kid that plays with the Legos for 10 minutes, chooses another thing out of the box, plays with that for 10, you’re 30 minutes into this. And then he’s coming to you going I’m bored. Okay, bored. I just mentioned boredom is okay. It also helps them be creative to solve their own boredom, go find some sticks, and play with them or something, make them into a fork or something. It actually is really good for them.
But another thing you can do is use incentives. You can say, if you can keep yourself happy and busy the whole time I work until I ring the bell that I’m finished, then you get whatever, a little treat a little sticker, whatever it is that they love and want; a new container of play dough that they get to play with whenever. Be sure to use incentives. One thing we do is we save screen time for the time I want to work on my computer. We don’t let our kids have unlimited screen time. It’s terrible for them. I have websites about learning disabilities, and they’re actually contributing to them. Kids playing on these too early in life and too many hours on them. And so, we really limit the kids’ screen time. And so, one thing I for sure do is save that screen time for that hour that I need some quiet. If it’s a kid that doesn’t want to play with the toys, or we’ve had them long enough, I need to replace them into something new that makes it exciting again, then I will do that. Or I’ll do the box of toys for one hour, go play with them for a half-hour, and do the screen time for an hour. It really helps to have things that they’re doing and can do.
Let’s see fights. On my list is fights because these kids are playing in this box. I wanted to play this. No, I did. Now they’re screaming. Mom needs to come in and handle this. She pulls herself out of a block, gets it under control goes back, and then you’re like where was I what was my next thought that I wanted to express? Oh, I don’t remember. The best thing to do is when mommy is working in her block, each child has a designated spot in the house and they are not together. They get their toys from the box that they’re going to be playing with during that time or maybe a couple of different ones so they can switch them off while they’re sitting there. But one child is down in the family room. The other is in the front room, however, you see fit to make that work so that they aren’t interacting with each other and fighting with each other. Because fights are one of the things that have pulled me out of my block more than anything else. We talked about the infant’s obviously try and get them on a good nap schedule, so that at the same time your kids go, your baby is napping too.
Let Go Of The Working at Home Guilt
The next subject is near and dear to me, because I already talked on this a tiny bit, guilt. Moms have so much guilt. If they hurt themselves, if they’re hungry, whatever, if you’re not seeing to their needs immediately, you immediately feel guilty. When I first started, because I believe the Bible and Christian base, I’m like, this is so bad. I am neglecting my child and chasing money, or trying for financial gain. It’s so bad of me. Guess what? No, it isn’t. I was there a lot. And it’s okay if they have to solve their own problems for an hour. Like I already said at the beginning of this, let go of that guilt, just let it go. Also, let go of the guilt that you’re trying to make some money. Because believe me, it takes two incomes nowadays. And I believe it did clear back from the time of Adam and Eve. One of the translations of the Bible actually says that Adam worked the fields, and Eve worked with him, or alongside him. A big revolution came through. And with corporate America, well, first the Industrial Revolution, men would go off to work instead of working instead of hoeing the carrots with their wife and their kids playing around their feet. I’m sure the women had to be in the house more, breastfeeding raising their kids. But I think moms and dads work together to raise their families more back then. And now people go out to the workplace, it separates the families a little bit more, the kids go off to school. It’s just our environment.
Does mommy sometimes have to work and still be a good mommy and a good wife? Yeah And even if you’re doing it as a passion project, something you want to share with the world, who better to share awesome information with other women out there that need help on things than a woman. I don’t think God created us just to feed kids, and change diapers and tidy up and do that all day long. He gave us brains, he gave us creative brains, even entrepreneurial brains. From the time I was a kid, I remember saving the little fry box, because I was going to start my own fry store. This is totally normal, and it’s totally okay. It’s what you love the most, make sure you love your family the most. Don’t go binge on it for 12 hours straight and leave your kids in dirty diapers. Get them taken care of and make sure they’re taken care of. And then they get a little bit of independence time while you do your thing. Let go of that guilt. When I say let go of the guilt, I still believe that little children should not see their mom constantly looking at a screen. My kids had to way more than I liked because I also had a job while I was building my website, and my job was at home, and primarily on a computer. But when you’re sitting with your kids, turn your phone off, don’t sit there and goof off on Instagram, or Facebook. Do that after the kids go to bed. It can be your spoil time. Or maybe in the middle of the day, give yourself a 20-minute break out on the porch or whatever sipping some cold drink and playing on your Insta. But if you’re going to have your face in front of a screen part of the time, there needs to be a lot of the day that they see mommy looking them in the eyes. It’s only fair to these kids. They’re growing up in a generation when mommy never looks up from the phone. And so, let go the guilt, but time everything. We’re gonna sum this up.
Wrapping It Up At Home
This is a short lesson, we’re only at 13 minutes. But the most important thing is time management, set up those one to two-hour windows according to how old your children are and how much they can take. And then do 30 minutes of your phone in the other room while you’re playing with them, while you’re feeding them looking them in the eye is actually stimulating to their brain. And God made us to look into our kids’ eyes and actually talk to them. And it helps them become more intelligent. And so, do that. And so, the last three things, I’m just gonna recap, don’t feel guilty. But the three things that are most important is planning ahead. You have some toys you know what you’re going to be doing, management of time, and management of the household so that everything’s under control when you go to do that. And like I said, preparation. Okay, so that’s it. Work on those things and get ready because when we start talking about the steps to build your business, coming soon, then you’re gonna want to be able to have some time for yourself to work on this business. Because you’ll get excited and passionate about it and you’re going to want that time, you’ll actually look forward to that time and you’ll get so excited about everything that you create or produce during that time. Good luck and I will see you back on the next lesson.